Confidence Boosters

Confidence Boosters

If there is one thing I would like to improve about myself, it's confidence. The confidence to feel good in my own skin, bare or styled. I've always wanted to look good without second guessing myself and so far, this journey of pushing myself to feel more confident has made me realized a few things about myself and the things that boost my self-esteem.

  1. Platform boots and shoes make me feel a little taller.
  2. Vibrant colored Nike shoes make me feel a little cooler, like I'm one of the cool kids.
  3. Bold lip colors make me feel like a fierce badass.
  4. When I take the time to curl my hair, I feel a little sophisticated.
  5. Voluminous lashes enhance my round, doe-eyed eyes.
  6. I love skirts way better than jeans since they make me look like a potato bud.
  7. Eye shadows. Who would have known I'd actually wear them a lot today. 
  8. White. I find that white shirts brighten my complexion and I love it.
  9. Collars, especially Peter Pan collars make me feel preppy and I love preppy.
  10. Colored contacts. As much as I appreciate my big eyes, I'd love to have a brighter iris color.

I know what you're thinking: aren't these all related to physical looks? Isn't confidence supposed to come from within? Yes and yes. But for some, it doesn't come to us just like that. Personally, I'm not a fan of pretty golden words like "you can only be confident if it comes from within you" or you know, those "money can't buy happiness" kind of sappy soap opera beginnings. I also think that confidence isn't completely bred out of the blue even though if it works like that for you, you're lucky. For me, I've realized that I doubted and second guessed myself too much; "should I wear this dark vampy lip color today? Will my boyfriend thinks this is too much? Should I wear any eyeshadow today? Will my friends think I look too much?"  and quite honestly, I'm tired. I'm tired of second guessing what I want to wear, how I want to style myself. I want to be able to rock a bold red lip and not feel awkward about it. I want to wear my platform shoes and walk with my head held high, with my skin tight black stockings and perfectly curled hair and feel like I am as sassy as Blair Waldorf.

All these doubts, these second guesses... I don't think they can be completely erased. Insecurity is, after all, a pain in the arse. Yet I'm working on it. I'm telling myself to 'eff it, you'll wear a bold red lip if you want; you'll curl your hair and feel happier if you need to.'

Maybe if I manage to permanently adopt this mindset, I won't have to stare into the mirror while getting ready for a date or a meetup with friends, second guessing myself because I was afraid my friends or boyfriend might judge me for over-styling myself.

Lucky for me my boyfriend doesn't care since he likes to say I look adorbs either way.

What about you, how do you boost your confidence?